Views:246 | By: Lenah Marriage is more than a beautiful ceremony or sharing a last name. It’s the joining of two lives, with all their beliefs, dreams, fears, and flaws. Talk.

1. Faith and Spirituality
Where do we stand spiritually?
Will we pray together?
How do we plan to raise our children in faith?
Whether you're both deeply spiritual or on different pages, discussing your beliefs early on can help avoid painful friction later.

2. Money and Finances
How do we handle money?
Are we savers or spenders?
Will we have joint or separate accounts?
Talking about finances helps prevent unnecessary stress. Be honest about debts, income, expectations, and financial goals. Money isn't everything, but silence about it can cost everything.

3. Children and Parenting
Do we want kids?
If yes, how many?
What kind of parents do we want to be?
This might seem like a future problem, but it's a foundational one. Don’t assume you’re on the same page—ask, share, and listen.

4. Fighting and Forgiving
How do we handle conflict?
Do we shut down, explode, or talk it out?
Everyone fights. What matters is how you resolve it. Knowing each other’s communication style in hard moments builds emotional safety.5. Career and Ambitions
What are our dreams and goals?
Are we okay with relocating or working long hours?
Will one of us take a break for the family?
Your futures are deeply connected. Support each other’s ambitions while being clear about how they impact your life together.

6. Family and Boundaries
How involved will in-laws be?
What happens during the holidays?
How do we set respectful boundaries?
Marrying someone also means becoming part of their family. Setting healthy boundaries ensures your marriage has room to breathe.

7. Sex and Intimacy
What does intimacy mean to us?
What are our expectations?
This topic can be awkward but necessary. Intimacy is more than just sex—it’s closeness, vulnerability, and affection. Have a safe, honest conversation about what you both need and value.

8. Roles and Responsibilities
Who does what in the house?
Are we okay with traditional roles or do we split chores?
Don’t assume things will fall into place—talk about it. Marriage works better when the load is shared, not silently assigned.

9. Mental Health and Past Pain
Have we healed from past wounds?
Do we understand each other’s emotional triggers?
We all carry baggage. The question is: are we willing to help each other unpack? Talk openly about mental health, therapy, trauma, and how you support each other emotionally.

10. Dealbreakers and Non-Negotiables
What are our personal boundaries?
What are we not willing to compromise on?
This might be the hardest one, but it’s essential. Clear communication about your limits helps both of you honor each other deeply.

Love may bring you together, but communication is what keeps you together. These conversations aren’t just “nice to have”—they’re necessary. And while they may feel uncomfortable, they lay the groundwork for trust,clarity and unity.